Siimon Reynolds’ book Why People Fail with Kevin Lovewell – Chapter 9

Other people don’t kill our dreams – We do! … a continuing discussion about Siimon Reynolds’ book “Why People Fail” with Kevin Lovewell

Chapter 9: Poor Self Image

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The plastic surgeon’s discovery.
Dr. Maxwell Maltz was a plastic surgeon who spent a good proportion of his time remodelling the faces and features of people who thought they were ugly. However, even after he “fixed” faces, ears, and eyes so they looked fantastic, when those people looked into the mirror, his patients still viewed themselves as unattractive.

The message in this chapter is that self-image rules. It is set like an air-conditioners rheostat. Determining levels of achievement, what you get and what you deserve. Again, like the overall theme of the book, Siimon identifies and then explains the means by which we can recalibrate the air-conditioner within us… and unlike the previous chapters; “hard work” is not at the top of this list.

“You are not your thinking”  A surprising piece of data reveals that medical research has proven the average person has between 60,000 and 70,000 thoughts each day; yet an even more extraordinary fact is that 70% are repeats. Yes, 70% of those thoughts were the ones we had yesterday and the day before! This is a problem if the thoughts are limiting, disempowering or action preventers. Knowing myself and again the average mob – there are elements of truth in this. All of us to a greater or lesser extent defeat ourselves before the world ever gets a chance to.

The toolbox used to fix this includes:

Acting the part: “act if” – as if you were already the person that you wish to be. The way to do this is to literally pretend you are a great method actor – preparing for the big role, immersing yourself in the characters role. (Of course you will feel silly – but the guarantee is within three days your inner thoughts will start believing this picture).

Boosting self-image:  Training your thought patterns involves thinking it consistently. The methods include dressing to the role you aspire to, cultivating optimism and a “have a go” mental attitude.

Emulating powerful people: Siimon has a “picture board” where lofty role models and characters he would most like to be are prominently displayed. He suggests also drawing a line through the relationships that don’t build up self-image. The energy sappers and losers should have limited access to you.

You may feel a little embarrassed by Siimons approach. There is a lot of truth in this chapter, and I feel the reader will accept positive self-image does result in positive outcomes. There are many books like “The Secret” that make so much more of this feature. My recommendation – Don’t be too quick to dismiss these ideas. After all; you miss 100% of shots you don’t take.

Action Step

The “recommended treatment” will possibly create personal embarrassment if it were to be acknowledged publicly. However, this is a private recipe that is not physically tough. If it is as important to you as it is to me; you, like me, will take the steps needed and just do it. It certainly has no chance to work if you don’t even attempt it.

1 – Taken from the book “Why People Fail – the sixteen obstacles to success and how to overcome them” – Siimon Reynolds

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